I conscious the role you want to take in this adventure and you will find your purpose with the right attitude.

Imagine that you are part of a play, visualize and answer: Where are you in this work? Think and reflect on which role you occupy in your life or, more specifically, in your project.

We present some alternatives to analyze:

  • Hero: Are you central and essential in the work, actively participating, giving everything on stage? Do you have an answer or a solution for everything?
  • Secondary: Are you the secondary character who lives the work but does not get involved? Or do you feel that you are on stage, you live the work, but your results depend completely on the decisions that another one makes for you?
  • Public: Are you in the gallery watching the work from outside, without participating? You may feel that this life you see is from another, with the dreams and aspirations of someone else, and you are living in autopilot while the time passes.
  • Criticism: Are you looking at the work from the stands, issuing opinions and value judgments? If you judge each action you do and every step you take, you are limiting to feel, make mistakes and, ultimately, live.
  • Behind the scene: Are you in the backstage, preparing you? Are you ready but you never get on stage? Maybe there is some insecurity that does not allow you to join courage to live your adventure.

Have you identified what character you are within the work you are living? Surely there are moments of your life in which you have each of these roles and it is good that it be so, depending on the circumstances. You can also take this parallel to the specific project that you have in mind. Ask yourself:

  • Why do you think you take that role at this time?
  • Which or what do you identify the most?
  • Do you do it for insecurity, for fear of opinions, because you think they expect that of you, to avoid making mistakes, to control?
  • And above all, I returned to the central question: for what? Because it depends on you what attitude you want to take in front of the leadership of your life and your projects. The important thing is that you define it and do it aware. May your role be your choice.

choice is everything

As we said, the context can often modify the type of role you take in front of a challenge. Certain situations require that you have a more passive or more active role. But the important thing and what we propose today is that you choose that role you take And that is not that you simply had no choice, that it took you by surprise or that you did not cheer up. I knew you can change, that you can choose. There is the key to achieving what you propose, to get to your purpose.

In certain situations, listen and realize that you can be the second in the act, because that situation can generate anguish or fears and decide to reserve that energy for another time or leave someone else with prominence. Or find you doing things, although nobody has asked you, to show that image of the superpower, and realize that they were not waiting for you can be liberating. And thus infinite possibilities that we can only change when we take the reins of our purpose.

When to be a protagonist

While we said that you do not always have to have the main role in every situation, you have to know that being the protagonist and exercising the command of your own life is what allows you to know you, accept you, respect you, with the good and the bad. It makes you a brave being in order to, from the authentic, from the deepest, to be able to make your own decisions. This is far from being able to change, learn and grow. It leaves you in the exact place of self -knowledge to leave for the path that you choose and thus be able to change the character or the scene.

By accepting the leadership of your own life or of a specific project, you also make your own and responsible for your decisions and actions, you compromise and thus really live what you want to live and you are happier. When you choose for yourself, you will release that unique energy that you carry inside, you understand what you really want to do, what is your purpose, your impulses, and what is what motivates you.

So, the question appears: "What play do I want to live? How is it going?" If you are not satisfied with the answers, it is a good time to understand that you are not only the protagonist, but also the director of the work, and you can, starting from the understanding of what dislikes you, change with time, work and effort the course of that story, you for what.

Can I change your role?

We are social beings and self -esteem is formed over time from your own perception of your qualities, your relationship with the environment and with other people around you. The way to meet you, change and self -perar implies being aware, defining, thanking and Release labels and then be able to give space to new airs and new projects.

In turn, your expectations and those that others have themselves can benefit you when they incite you to improve how to play against whether they tied or limit your decisions and your actions. When you are aware of what is expected of you, you can open a dialogue and align them to avoid conflicts. Knowing you will help you get out of the role in which you always fall by repetition.

Other times, the conflict can persist and it is at that time that you should ask yourself: "Who is the life I am living?" Turn, thus, to take the reins when you understand that it is your own life and you choose your own path, your own role, with love, conscience and commitment.

"When you choose for yourself, you will release that unique energy that you carry inside, you understand what you really want to do, what is your purpose, your impulses, and what is what motivates you."

Now, again, ask yourself:

  • With your actions and words are you answering your deepest wishes?
  • Do you know how to listen to modify the role according to the situation you are in?

If you answered "yes" to both questions, stay calm: that is to be the true protagonist of your life.

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By Julieta Montaldo
Consultant at DINK